Friday, September 21, 2012

French Kissing

Chers amis,

The art of French kissing -- the bise -- that is. No tongue is involved in this kind of French kissing, but rather the bise or bisou is the cheek-to-cheek kiss for greetings, and also a common sign-off on friendly letters (much like we would sign "Love,...." even it wasn't a love letter).  You can plant them firmly on the cheek, but for more casual acquaintances, often the lips are in the air, making a "mwa" sound, while the cheeks are pressed together.

The American in me finds it funny to see Anthony cheek-kissing people, but yes, even men do it. It also feels slightly odd to have 11-year old boys happily come up to kiss me hello, since I can hardly imagine American boys of that same age who would be half as willing to give out hugs to adults ("ugh, you're embarrassing me...").

But how many kisses? That is the question.

Below, my friend Christine greets her mom Liliane in Normandy. Christine is not, in fact, flipping me the bird (British style) but rather counting the number of bisous with which she greets her mother -- two in their case.


Christine's brother-in-law is from somewhere else and goes with three, and I have a couple friends who go with four. The minimum nearly everywhere in France is two, so basically you just go in for the one, two, then sit there bobbing like one of those colored-water woodpeckers till you figure out if you should keep on keepin' on, or if you're kissing is done.

 
The best explanation I have seen for this -- by far -- comes with a color-coded map. No, this has nothing to do with recent elections in France (Sarkozy vs. Hollande). Check out http://bigthink.com/strange-maps/210-french-kissing-map for explanations of this:
 
kissing-map1.jpg 
 
Bisous,
Kazz
 
 
 

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